A really good book about leadership that has practical advice even if you're not a church leader or a business "managerial" type person. Since this was a Kindle book, some of my favorite highlights.
The happiest people are those who have invested their time in others. The unhappiest people are those who wonder how the world is going to make them happy.
The four most important words: What is your opinion?—listening
The five most important words: You did a good job—encouragement
The six most important words: I want to know you better—understanding
What happens to you speaks of your circumstances. What happens in you speaks of your character. And what happens through you speaks of your charisma.
...there are five nonnegotiable characteristics that every effective leader must have: a sense of calling, an ability to communicate, creativity in problem solving, generosity, and consistency.
People have attached negative connotations to persuasion and associated it with manipulation. Actually, the Latin meaning of the word is very positive. Per means “through” and suasio means “sweetness.” So, to persuade means to use sweetness to get people to do things. Effective persuasion is a result of relating, not ruling. It speaks to the heart as well as to the head. Therefore, persuasion does not make use of force or intimidation.
I am responsible for how I treat others. I may not be responsible for how they treat me, but I am responsible for my reaction to those who are difficult. I can’t choose how you’ll treat me, but I can choose how I will respond to you.
Watch your own attitude toward the critic. A negative attitude toward criticism can be more destructive than the criticism itself.
Uniformity is not the key to successful teamwork. The glue that holds a team together is unity of purpose.
The following poem appeared in Ann Landers’ column. Each line contains a truth and a test:
To laugh is to risk appearing a fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk rejection.
To place your dreams before the crowd is to risk ridicule.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, feel, change, grow, or love.
Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave. Only a person who takes risks is free.