I didn't realize how old this book was, but it's definitely a good one. It explains away the silly notion that men and women are completely alike by describing how we each react to certain situations and emotions. I had heard many of these concepts before, especially more in-depth in some of the Christian-based books I've read (Love and Respect, for one), but it had some good examples of things to think about. For example Men, tend to cycle between needing independence and needing closeness, and if women can give this space, the man will 'bounce' back faster and come even closer. Women tend to experience emotional waves, and even a man doing what he's supposed to (listening and empathizing instead of 'fixing') may only be helping her 'reach bottom faster.' But that's not a bad thing. Another example was that men prefer to be asked 'would you' or 'will you' rather than 'could you' or 'can you.' This is because a negative answer to the latter is an admission of incompetence rather than a statement of preference. Finally, he talked about writing 'love' letters during disagreements with five equal parts: anger, sadness, fear, remorse, and love. Then write a short response detailing what you want the outcome to be. You can either share or not share the letters. (Though I think if you don't share them, you're setting yourself up by writing what you expect the response to be... when it may not be like that at all).